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Unf*ckology, a field guide to living with guts and confidence, Amy Alkon

eng

Includes bibliographical references and index

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index present

non fiction

Unf*ckology

Amy Alkon

a field guide to living with guts and confidence

Amy Alkon presents Unf*ckology, a "science-help" book that knocks the self-help genre on its unscientific ass. You can finally stop fear from being your boss and put an end to your lifelong social suckage. Have you spent your life shrinking from opportunities you were dying to seize but feel "that's just who I am"? Well, screw that! You actually can change, and it doesn't take exceptional intelligence or a therapist who's looking forward to finally buying Aruba after decades of listening to you yammer on. Transforming yourself takes revolutionary science-help from Amy Alkon, who has spent the past 20 years translating cutting-edge behavioral science into highly practical advice in her award-winning syndicated column. In Unf*ckology, Alkon pulls together findings from neuroscience, behavioral science, evolutionary psychology, and clinical psychology. She explains everything in language you won't need a psych prof on speed-dial to understand--and with the biting dark humor that made Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck such a great read. She debunks widely-accepted but scientifically unsupported notions about self-esteem, shame, willpower, and more

Pt. ONE You Have What It Takes; It's Just in Hiding -- 1.Loserhood Isn't Destiny -- 2.Hate Me; I Suck -- A coming-of-rage story -- pt. TWO The Building Blocks of the New You -- 3.The Mind Is Bigger Than the Brain -- Meet your new BFF, "embodied cognition" -- 4.Meet Your Emotions (the little shits) -- More useful than you'd think -- 5.Your Mind Is Also in Your Elbow -- Why metaphor matters -- 6.Eat Shit and Die -- The power of ritual -- 7.Souplantation for the Soul -- Make your own daily rituals! -- 8.Self-Esteem Is Not What You Think It Is -- The irrelevance of whether you like you -- 9.Jeer Pressure -- What shame actually is and how to beat it -- 10.You Suck. Or Do You? -- Confidence, assertiveness, and the Self sisters (self-compassion, self-acceptance, and self-respect) -- 11.Your Feelings Are Not the Boss of You -- Its not what you feel; it's what you do -- 12.Be Inauthentic! -- Screw the real you; be the ideal you -- 13.They Should Call It Won't-Power -- The pathetic realities of willpower -- 14.Where There's a Will ... There's a Brain That's Been Slipped a Cookie -- How to get the most out of your willpower -- pt. THREE Putting It All Together -- 15.Rise and Spine -- Grow a backbone and put the damn thing to work -- 16.Rock `n' Role! -- Time to slip into somebody more comfortable -- 17.Saddle Up Your Fear and Ride It Like a Pony -- Fear is not just the problem; it's the answer -- 18.Unfuckwithable

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